How does Attachment Style affect Adults?
As human beings, we are wired for connection and attachment. From the day we are born, we seek out and form bonds with those around us. These early relationships and experiences can shape our attachment styles, which in turn can have a significant impact on our adult relationships.
Attachment theory was first introduced by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s. According to Bowlby, our attachment style is formed in response to our primary caregiver's responsiveness and availability to our needs in early childhood. He identified three main attachment styles: secure, insecure-avoidant, and insecure-anxious.
Secure attachment, the healthiest attachment style, is formed when a child's primary caregiver responds consistently and sensitively to their needs. As adults, those with a secure attachment style tend to have healthy relationships, are comfortable with intimacy and closeness, and maintain a positive view of themselves and their partners.
Insecure-avoidant attachment is formed when a child's primary caregiver is consistently unresponsive or dismissive of their needs. As adults, those with an insecure-avoidant attachment style tend to be emotionally distant, avoid intimacy, and have difficulty trusting others.
Insecure-anxious attachment is formed when a child's primary caregiver is inconsistent in their responsiveness, leading to a sense of unpredictability and instability. As adults, those with an insecure-anxious attachment style tend to be overly dependent on their partners, fear abandonment, and have a negative view of themselves.
It's important to note that attachment styles are not set in stone and can change throughout our lives, particularly with therapy and self-awareness. However, understanding our attachment style can help us better navigate our relationships and communicate our needs effectively. In therapy, we love to explore attachment styles with clients to deepen the understanding of the self and how we interact in our relationships. Claim your free consult today.